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The Battle between Rejection and Prosperity-Guest Blogger-in-Residence-Lana Hooks

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The title declares there is a combat; an attack, one entity against the other. I call Rejection, Prosperity and two more you’ll meet entities. This is why they are italicized. By their definition these are energies that once believed fulfills its intent, motive and desire of the living vessel. Prosperity by definition is, “a successful, flourishing, or thriving condition, especially in financial respects.”1 Whereas Rejection states, “this is an active refusal to respond to a child’s/ (adult’s) [my input] needs (e.g., refusing to touch a child, denying the needs of a child, ridiculing a child).”2

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Prosperity includes excellent of health (mind, body, emotions), successful business (self-employed, or care and growth of opportunities at workplace), thriving relationships (family, extended family, friends, colleagues, peers) and spiritual enlightenment (growth in your relationship with the Creator and self). Each of these facets calls an abundance of creativity, currency, and like-minded people in your neurological topography, funding interchange, and geographical space. In fact, isn’t this is the end game? But what is the blockage from receiving these core structures?

 

 

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As children you are taught values and beliefs by external conditioning. Parents, caregivers, stewards, or those in authority and position teach you what they believe as their truth. Blindly, at times, passing down their truths without thinking did this belief work for them? Most times not, but what was good for them is good for you, their child. Right?

How many of you were told that “money doesn’t grow on trees?” Time after time you asked for money and they said, “I don’t have it,” or, “Money is the root of all evil,” which was inaccurate. The biblical verse states, “For the LOVE of money is A root of all evil…”3 You eventually stopped asking. Your brain’s interpretation of these statements was, “I am not worthy to have my needs and wants met. I don’t deserve to have money in my life because my family didn’t have money either.” Not only is there a lack in money but health, relationships, business and employment as well. The brain does not discern one dynamic from the other. It operates off of the belief that you’re unworthy and undeserving. This is Rejection’s verbiage coinciding with your belief system.

If not uprooted and sent new messages through the neurons (that can grow new cells) out of the hippocampus, as adults, you will operate in these old messages of familial beliefs. If that is so, then operating in Rejection’s beliefs will continue until there is Divine intervention. This intervention will be severe, needed, and at some point, you asked for it (and no, you won’t know how the intervention will dress itself), but it will take center stage. It will shockingly awaken you from a self-induced slumber that protected your soul from further feeling the pain of Lack. Enter Awareness.

Dressed to the nine’s, she stands on the stage of your brain, in your harrowing situation to deliver the Creator’s original record of your creation. Defying the conditions of your life she recites your authentic nature, your inherent wealth, and your divine birthright. She knows she has your attention. What she is saying resonates in your soul, and you know you have a choice to make.

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Sen, author of “What is Awareness?”basically awareness is this power of pure observation. Thoughts create interpretations, feelings create emotions and events are again created by thoughts in the mind – all of this can be observed in pure awareness.”4

Sen, also states that, “…in that sense the awareness of your brain is connected with the awareness of the wholeness of life-energy, this is how you connect with wisdom, instinct, intuition and inner-guidance. The stronger the awareness in your brain the more receptive you are to the intelligence of life, because when your brain is more aware it connects more firmly with the awareness of the wholeness of life.”5

I know your goal, as mine, is to enjoy Prosperity’s riches in the aforementioned above areas. Then Awareness must be awakened to connect you back to the ‘Wholeness of Life.’ This doesn’t mean that harsh circumstances won’t still occur from time to time. But with Awareness at the forefront you can maneuver through situations with eyes wide open, learning what needs to be learned and to grow from the experience. Awareness is the key that ceases Rejection’s voice and plants your foot one step closer to your unique, defined Prosperity.

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Lana M. Hooks is the Chief Editor of PharSide Coed Book Club that advises #emergingauthors in removing the apprehension in writing their story. This editing group walks with the author ensuring their voice is heightened and content is written to engage their tribe. Memoirs, inspirational, and transformational stories are by and large this group’s forte. With several new authors under their belt PharSide recognizes that these voices and their stories are the blueprint for those who choose to listen and heed.

Lana is a first-time author of Dirty Breath: Trapped by Rejection, a #memoir. She’s a speaker and advocate for #EmotionalAbuseAwareness. Most recently Lana accepted a board appointment to N.E.X.T. Level Empowerment Group a Kentucky based group to empower women to be transformed to the next level in their lives.

After researching the devastating tolls of emotional abuse, Lana saw it advantageous to include workbooks with the memoir. The workbooks are intended to expose and extract wounds infiltrated in the soul.  In the workbooks, Lana breaks down how soul wounds are healed and how one may experience restored thinking, behavior and, live in their #authentic nature. It is Lana’s strong desire that no child is left with an emotional legacy like the entity “Rejection”, or others, without a blueprint left for them to navigate out of Rejection’s lair and their #awareness awakened.

Lana is available to speak at book clubs, women’s groups, spiritual gatherings or panels on Emotional Abuse Awareness. You can visit her website and subscribe to bi-weekly blogs on Emotional Abuse and inspirational quotes. Visit https://www.createspace.com/5102704 and get your copy of Dirty Breath: Trapped by Rejection.

Contact Lana at:

Lana M. Hooks

authorlmhooks@gmail.com

404.437.1869

www.lanamhooks.com

 

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We have one focus for the month of March!

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Designed Statement:

I THRIVE in every space I enter!

 

 

 

 

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Success is A Personal Pronoun by February 2015 Blogger-in-Residence-Monica Leak

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Think back to first-grade language arts when you were formally introduced to the parts of speech. There were nouns, verbs, direct objects, adjectives and prepositions and these things called pronouns. Pronouns indicate the person speaking or the person spoken about. Remember the chart with the singular and plural sides and starting on the singular side you had I, You, He, She, It and then on the Plural side we, you, they. These personal pronouns can take the place of nouns or other pronouns. Flashback to Saturday mornings and Schoolhouse rock and maybe the link below will jog your memory. So what’s that got to do with success? For many success is tied to attainment of academic degrees and accolades, their position whether chief executive officer or chief operating officers, their sphere of influence and wealth. While these stated items may be barometers by which society measures someone’s level of success, success can be a personal pronoun.

 

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As a personal pronoun success equals I, success equals you, success equals he and she, success equals we and success equals themy. Success is a factor in an equation in which you are the subject whether your name is Anna Marie or Estella Rose. So how do you function in this semantic equation? First you can function in multiple spheres of influence being either singular or plural. You can be a success as an individual but also can as a team utilize your skills and talents to achieve success in community. Secondly as a personal pronoun success becomes synonymous with who you are. Your integrity, the spirit of excellence that you put forth in every project and presentation and reaching across the aisle to bring people with differing views together to work as a team to complete a task speak to who you are. Those small things that are second nature to you are those characteristics that make you the unique, fabulous and fierce individual equal success. Finally without success as a personal pronoun you have an expression with an equals sign with no factors to balance it out.   As the brilliant person you are, you are designed to make statements so what clearer statement can there be than you equal success. Be it. Live it. Walk it out.

 

Monica Leak is a speech language pathologist with the Charles County Public Schools in Maryland. She holds the Certificate of Clinical Competence from the American Speech Language Hearing Association (ASHA). She has worked as a speech language pathologist for over ten years and within this position has been involved in research, conference planning and grant writing, and program development on state and regional levels. Actively involved in the community, she is mentor with Community Lodgings, a transitional residential facility in Alexandria, Virginia and volunteers with Health Partners in Charles County, Maryland.

She received her Bachelor of Science degree from Appalachian State University in the area of Communication Disorders and a Master of Arts degree from South Carolina State University in Speech Language Pathology and Audiology. She holds a Master’s of Library Science from North Carolina Central University. She is currently working on her Master’s of Divinity degree at John Leland Center for Theological Studies in Arlington, VA. She currently serves as an associate minister and Church school teacher First Baptist Church Vienna in Vienna, Virginia.

 

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Pain and Prosperity: The Struggle Is Real by February 2015 Blogger-in-Residence-Monica Leak

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Check minute 3:20 when Biggie describes the real struggle of pain and prosperity. There’s this idea of jealousy and envy and having to look over your shoulder when you come into a prosperous place. That is some burden to bear if something that is supposed to contribute to a better life become a source of pain.   The title of the song itself puts it pretty bluntly, Mo Money Mo Problems. The hook in the song says, “I don’t know what, they want from me. It’s like the more money we come across. The more problems we see.” The layered lyrics of this now classic hip hop song from back in the day reflects the battle between pain and prosperity. Who is supposed to prosper? Are Wall Street CEOs who make millions of dollars off the backs of those they employ only to downsize and amass for themselves larger salaries to prosper? The congressmen and senators who take bribes under the table but claim to speak for their constituency? Every magazine cover has celebrities who have made millions at the box office but behind closed doors are stories of pain and inner turmoil. Who would have thought that an actor who made us laugh, cry, laugh, think, wonder, and laugh again would take his life? From the outside looking in it would appear that Robin Williams had the prosperity, but he also suffered in silent pain. Pain and prosperity are siblings with a long held rivalry that goes back to the Garden of Eden.

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Prosperity rested in the tree of knowledge of good and evil while Pain lingered in restless state until a choice was made and Pain came into the family picture so that Prosperity which was once within easy reach now became something that required work and effort. The question is can we have prosperity without pain? Pain and prosperity appear to be a package deal; you can’t have one without the other. The struggle is real when you are grinding every day and doing what you have to do to not only survive but to succeed but see those who make little or no effort prosper. Or maybe you are prospering yet dealing with what feels like an insurmountable pain. Even pain like cancer can go into remission leaving you with prosperity and even if both arrive at your door at the same time you have the following strategies: 1. Acknowledge the source, 2. Be a good steward and 3. Be joyful. When you acknowledge the pain and identify its source, you know how to address and heal the pain. When you acknowledge the source of your prosperity with something as a simple thank you, you unlock the door and open the window for more to release to you. A good steward is one who manages well the resources that have been entrusted to their care. Whether you have one thin dime to your name or a portfolio of massive stock options, being a good steward enables you to not only be content but to also know how to act when blessed with more without getting all stank and brand new. Joy is contagious and when it resides with you and in you all that is around you will either align with your joy, chill or find itself another hangout. While the struggle between pain and prosperity may be a real one, your overcoming success is revealed in responding with acknowledgment, good stewardship and being joyful.

 

 

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Monica Leak is a speech language pathologist with the Charles County Public Schools in Maryland. She holds the Certificate of Clinical Competence from the American Speech Language Hearing Association (ASHA). She has worked as a speech language pathologist for over ten years and within this position has been involved in research, conference planning and grant writing, and program development on state and regional levels. Actively involved in the community, she is mentor with Community Lodgings, a transitional residential facility in Alexandria, Virginia and volunteers with Health Partners in Charles County, Maryland.

She received her Bachelor of Science degree from Appalachian State University in the area of Communication Disorders and a Master of Arts degree from South Carolina State University in Speech Language Pathology and Audiology. She holds a Master’s of Library Science from North Carolina Central University. She is currently working on her Master’s of Divinity degree at John Leland Center for Theological Studies in Arlington, VA. She currently serves as an associate minister and Church school teacher First Baptist Church Vienna in Vienna, Virginia.

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Finding Purpose Past the Pain by February 2015 Blogger-in-Residence-Monica Leak

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In 2002 Pastor, Rick Warren released a book entitled The Purpose Driven Life. The book became an instant bestseller that according to Publisher’s Weekly was the bestselling nonfiction work in history on the basis of its answer to this fundamental question, what on earth am I here for? The book took on a life of its own as people across the world gathered in churches and small groups to take this journey with the result being that of discovering of purpose. The question of purpose raises its head in so many different ways. Students may question the purpose for a specific course that seemingly has no relevance or employees may question in the workplace the purpose of a particular task comes especially when it doesn’t appear to suit the entire project. Yet in all of these efforts to understand purpose whether in a small group study or some reflective personal journey the issue of pain in that process is often glossed over or hidden from view like an unwanted blemish that’s best covered up with some form of concealer.

 

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Seriously, who goes looking for pain? Physical suffering or distress or emotional suffering or torment is how pain is defined by the Random House Dictionary. Life is not without pain. The pain of losing a parent, the pain of separation and divorce, the pain of a miscarriage, the pain of a doctor’s diagnosis appear as an uninvited guest to life’s celebration. If your name is not on the guest list for an event you are kindly asked to leave and if I had my way, pain the uninvited guest would be kindly asked to leave the premises. Pain however viewed has its purpose. Pain serves as a warning system to the body that something is wrong, or something is out of alignment. Pain in our lives whether mental, physical, emotional or spiritual produces that same warning signal. When we get that warning signal, what do you do? You can choose to do one of the two things either ignore the pain or do something to address the pain. How do we effectively manage our pain? We can seek professional counseling, find support groups, reach out to that confident who knows us like that back of her hand, change of diet, exercise, removing unnecessary stressors etc., can aid us in better pain management. Sometimes the pain becomes comfortable. You can become so used to it that you can barely recognize when it changes because you have dealt with it for so long so in one sense pain can even motivate us. Pain can push us out of our comfortable stuck in pain mode into a space that causes us to act and pushes us to do something different, to ask the hard questions of those who are healers of pain and demand the answers. Pain also brings things into focus. The very nature of things becomes clearer in the midst of pain as you notice the fine details or pick up on words unsaid or actions that would have otherwise gone unnoticed. Finally, the pain can strengthen our resolve to soar above and go beyond the limits of our pain to see the purpose in it and walk in the purpose destined for our lives.

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“Losing Myself to Find Me”-February 2015 Blogger-in-Residence-Monica Leak

Hear My Call Lyrics (Verse 2)

“I am such a fool
How did I get here?
Played by all the rules
Then they changed
I am but a child to your vision
Standing in the cold and the rain
Lost here in the dark
I can’t see my foot to take a step,
What is happening?
Oh, this hurts so bad. I can hardly breathe.
I just want to leave so.” -Jill Scott

Being lost is not necessarily desirable. When you set out towards a destination being lost is not in the plan. You took all the right precautions. You prepared yourself the night before and ran through the checklist. Called the host or point of contact to confirm the logistics with the correct address and directions. May have used Google maps, MapQuest, Verizon navigator to enter the address so you can get a feel or familiarity with the planned route. Even left the house in plenty of time to factor in the possibility of getting lost allowing an extra twenty minutes or so but lost. Being lost for some can trigger that high level of panic and cause frustration. This frustration occurs as you think about what am I going to do or I’m going to be late, or the damn my is dead.

So what do you do when you lose yourself? Loss of self is not the same as losing your car keys, a major report or misplacing your cell phone. You can get a duplicate set of keys. You can recover your report. For a misplaced cell phone, well call the number and listen for the ring. When you lose yourself, it’s like all those pieces that made you uniquely you are scattered in fragments and so the effort to get back appears daunting. Like with the keys, the report and cell phone, you can be found and recovered. First, retrace your steps. Go back to the beginning. What was that one thing that motivated you to get up in the morning excited about what you were going to do the next day? What was it that inspired you and caused all the wheels in your head to turn with an idea after idea? What was that thing that even if you didn’t get paid for it you do it just because it made you happy? The process of retracing your steps is one of discovery. It allows for the connection of the nouns of life the people, the places and things to come together in memory to take shape and find a form in you. You that is introverted, dances, sings in the shower or keeps their feet to the ground is discovered in those steps. Check your surroundings. Your surroundings can be the difference between arriving at your destination or being in the middle of nowhere. Check for drop off and pick up points. There are some people, places and things that will be of value to you that you pick up. And those which you will need to drop off at the Goodwill because they will be of more value to someone else. Still there are those that just need to go to the trash bin so you dump that and keep it moving. It’s easy when you’re lost to just give up and go back home but that doesn’t get you to the destination. In retracing your steps and checking surroundings, the lost becomes found, and all that’s left is to continue the journey.

Enjoy the Journey…

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Instead of bombarding you with do this in 2015, do that in 2015 blah blah blah. Couture Purpose encourages you to consider these 15 AFFIRMations for a re-STORED YOU.

 

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2015 Affirmations

 

  1. I am God’s answer to universal questions.
  2. I am hope for my generation.
  3. I am always loved, supported and valued.
  4. I am a continuous learner, creative thinker and agent of change.
  5. I am the epitome of beauty.
  6. I am vision proceeding movement.
  7. I accept…
  8. Debts leave me now.
  9. All my emotions are free.
  10. I constantly express myself.
  11. I constantly experience quantum leaps.
  12. The universe guards and enables my destiny and purpose.
  13. I clearly express my mind, spirit and soul.
  14. The next generation will benefit from my boldness, courage and intelligence.
  15. Money is a constant current which flows to me.

 

Designed Statement:

I am re-STORED

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Re: Question?

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Question [to ponder]:

Is the REAL YOU emerging?

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Designed Statement:

The UNIVERSE expects me to operate at the highest vibration of MYSELF.

 

 

 

 

 

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Happy New Year (You) Brilliance-

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Instead of bombarding you with do this in 2014, do that in 2014 blah blah blah. Couture Purpose encourages you to manifest these 14 AFFIRMations for an AWAKENED YOU.

2014 Affirmations

 

  1. I am God’s answer to universal questions.
  2. I am hope for my generation.
  3. I am always loved, supported and valued.
  4. I am a continuous learner, creative thinker and change agent.
  5. I am the epitome of beauty.
  6. I am vision proceeding movement.
  7. I do not accept someone’s ideas of me as fact.
  8. Obligation has no place in my life I have no debts.
  9. All my emotions are free.
  10. I constantly express myself.
  11. I constantly experience quantum leaps.
  12. The universe guards and enables my destiny and purpose.
  13. I clearly express my mind, spirit and soul.
  14. The next generation will benefit from my boldness, courage and intelligence.
  15. Money works for me; I do not work for money (Bonus).

 

Designed Statement: I am vision proceeding movement…

 

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Re: Focus

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There are 13 days left in 2013, this is the time to slow your pace, settle your spirit and review your DREAMS.

Remember to CENTER & FOCUS YOUR heart’s intentions!

Designed Statement:

What I DESIRE, DESIRES me…

 

 

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