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Expect $1.4 Trillion

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Congratulations on being a part of a very exclusive group. You are part of a niche in society that controls $1.4 trillion dollars, YES YOU!

 

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Studying great business leaders, you will discover a similar trait of “Expectancy” in their mindsets. Great men and women set their “Expectations” and achieve great success. “Expectation” is a key entrepreneurial trait.

Brilliance, what are you expecting? Are you expecting hope? Are you expecting debt? Are you expecting your business to fail? Are you expecting success? What are you expecting?

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Take a piece of paper and a PEN! Ask yourself “What I’m I EXPECTING?” Write down the first three things that come to your mind. If you hear something undesirable, let the thought know “Thank you, you have served your purpose, I no longer need you.”

Once, you have written your three things. Write under the list “I EXPECT YOU.” Place the piece of paper in your diary, journal, portfolio, or wherever you keep your private notes.

Next, go to your phone’s calendar, create an alert for February 13, 2016. February 13, 2016, will be the date you revisit what you are “EXPECTING.”

3 Things To Do While You Are “Expecting”

1. Believe– NEVER stop believing in you and your dreams.

2. Read-Research and read on what you are “Expecting.” For example, you want to open a tea shop. Research tea and, the health benefits of drinking tea. Reading is a power distraction from the inner critics.

3. Assist-One of the most powerful ways to receive what you “Expect” is to assist others with their work. For example, you expect to start your business in 2016. Seek opportunities to volunteer with organizations such as SCORE as a means to use your talents and glean valuable business insights.

YOU are not alone! The Couture Purpose community supports you and your dreams. No matter where you may be in your goals and visions. REMEMBER, You are evolving into the best and highest YOU.

 

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Collaborate:

How may we promote your greatness? Please keep us abreast on what you and your organizations are doing. And how the Couture Purpose community may assist you with furthering your dreams.

Looking for Business and Purpose Consultants? Contact us today and, let’s collaborate on your business ideas and visions.

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“Deliberately Me” 2016 Campaign

 

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Hey Brilliance-

We hope you are enjoying manifesting your dreams.

Couture Purpose decided we do not have to wait until 2016 to launch our new campaign “Deliberately Me.” In a world filled with reasons not to be YOU, Couture Purpose decided to intentionally encourage YOU with being “Deliberately You.”

From December 1, 2015, until December 31, 2016, you will see posts, interviews, and best practices on the art and science of “being deliberate.” Yup, you guessed it we are making a statement.

Speaking of statements please visit our new “Runway” page and get your limited edition “Historically Beautiful” designer statement tee. This designer t-shirt was designed with the essence and uniqueness of the Couture Purpose community.

As always thank you for your love and support!

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“Shift”

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“We are the complete greatness of universal intelligence and love.”

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“Unknown”

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The “unknown” is a friend and not a “foe.”

 

 

 

 

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Spoiler Alert-by-Guest Blogger-in-Residence-Sonny Smith

 

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When businessmen and women ask me how I handle the challenges of being a woman in business I immediately begin to think of all the ignorant, perverted, rigid and outright arrogant situations that I’ve been apart of. You’ve heard it:

“You’re not ready to play with the big boys – but I’ll let you make me a sandwich.”

“I can get you this contract, but you gotta give me to booty first.” (Yep, someone actually said this to me)

“I know you think you’re smart, but your plan is gonna blow up in your face.”

“You’ve got a great idea, but you’re going to need me to make it happen.”

 

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I begin replaying the intensity I felt in the peak of these gender-biased moments, all the crazy faces I make in my head from utter shock, and the visions of politely “removing” taste buds from an elite few.

 

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…and then I smile. All that anxiety and stress came from the old me, but I still get asked:

 

  • How do I get the opposite sex to take an attractive woman seriously?
  • How do I keep the conversation about business instead of the bedroom?
  • How do I ensure that I don’t cower when someone is trying to intimidate me?

 It took me years to figure it out, but I realized that it’s nothing personal; that others create challenges based on what comes naturally to them. I’ve learned how to finesse even the most compromising situations and cleverly maneuver myself to remain sweatless and unmoved. Here’s how.

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Think about any movie – romantic comedy, action, suspense, you name it – the basics are all the same: the characters, the script and the drama in between. Spoiler alert! You already know that there will be a good guy and a bad guy; boy meets girl scenario or someone who saves the world from aliens. You also know that there’s going to be some drama, whether excitement or tragedy, because who wants to see a movie where nothing happens? And above all, you know that there must be a well-written script – otherwise it’s corny or boring and we’re ready to ask for our money back.

So what does this have to do with overcoming challenges?

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If we already know that characters will play their role and the drama in life comes standard, why is that we continue to be surprised and respond to the most predictable situations like they’re brand new? We should not allow people to re-write the scripts of our lives in a manner that creates anxiety, gives away our power and discredits our contribution. If we know what’s coming, we should be a step ahead.

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First, you have to STUDY THE CHARACTERS. Know the cast in the environment that you’re leading. Note: this is not a permission slip to start stalking people!

 

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Spoiler alert! An average man will play the role they normally play: they may not speak because they think you’re intimidating OR they speak because they see something beautiful that they want and they want to explore it, conquer it and hoard it in their camp. True story. Men will react – good or bad – to things that intrigue them. They spend time pushing buttons and boundaries to see what they’re up against. It’s not new. Your role is to know whom you’re dealing with and how to properly engage.

network-577009_1920 I pay attention to how they like to give and receive information (i.e. stats vs. stories), the type of verbal affirmations they respond to (ego nurturing), types of things they highlight in casual passing (sports, people, news) and the type of people they hang around (statesmen, philanthropists, lots of women).

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Find a way to relate to the character. People are more vulnerable to you when they feel as though they’ve been heard.

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Second, SKIP THE DRAMA. Everything doesn’t warrant a level 10 response from us. I’m all for being an interesting and enthusiastic, not to be confused with being moody or irrational. As a person who is usually the only woman in a boardroom full of men – Spoiler alert! – there is a stereotype that women are zealous and hopeful without any real foundation.

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Imagine me at a table full of men vehemently trying to explain to me why I can’t excel at being creative and project-oriented at the same time. I sat upright in my chair, listened, and waited for the proper time to introduce them to a concept that they’d never experienced before – me.

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After just one meeting with a very successful Asian male from the group, he expressed, “I thought you were just very happy and eager about this project; that you’d have no hard insight as to how to run this program. It was very refreshing to see that you are very practical and extremely organized.” I responded without jumping up from the table, popping my neck or pointing fingers. How we respond gives away signals to our stability, class and strength; which is exactly what your challengers are looking for. The same goes for women who aren’t supportive to you. Let them keep the drama; you keep your cool.

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Third, “RIGHT” THE SCRIPT. When it comes to navigating challenging conversations and situations, there’s nothing more powerful than choosing the right words to say.

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I cannot express how important the scenery or the atmosphere is when considering what you say. Knowing when to make a very blunt statement versus a clever comeback will make or break your position. With that in mind, here are a few tips to keep in mind when developing your script:

  1. Stay true to yourself. Don’t agree to something that you believe is harmful with where you see yourself in the future.
  2. Always have an opinion, but be selective as to when or if you share it.
  3. Don’t. Push people’s buttons.
  4. Always get back to the business at hand. Get what you came for.
  5. Smile – just a little.

Example. If a man has been known to be aggressive and “punchy” in order to belittle me in public, I don’t break eye contact, I speak slowly and say something like, “I’ll be sure to give you some better insight about that at a later time, but if we can, I’d like to finalize our next meeting date.” Hold gaze.

eye-297544_1280 Mastering the characters, the drama, and the script is how we make our power plays. What you’re really dealing with is a person’s maturity and confidence. Don’t be caught off-guard at how someone acts when they’re intimidated or curious about whom you are. Spoiler alert! You’re awesome and deep down they already know that you’re awesome.

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Sonny Smith is a strategic planning and operations specialist, advocate for social awareness and a fan of lists that come in threes! The Birmingham, AL native is passionate about working with big ideas and the entrepreneurs who create them! Sonny lends her expertise to corporate and non-profit influencers and welcomes the opportunity to discuss community solutions in an open forum whether local or abroad. Connect with her at Smith@SmithGetsResults.com or on Twitter @SonnyGetsItDone.

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Unapologetic Wealth

As a teenager entering the workforce, I heard, Don’t end your day without paying yourself from a gentle soul who was a business mastermind. This gentle soul talked to me for two hours regarding paying myself and being an entrepreneur. As I recall watching this man work in the community many discarded him because he was unassuming and quiet. Little did people know he was one of the first millionaires in his city. From that moment forward I learned any time greatness walks in the room, I need to position myself front and center, taking notes, and counting myself blessed in the presence of greatness.

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The aforementioned moment is just one example of the countless dreamers and entrepreneurs I have encountered on my journey to becoming a social entrepreneur. Even though social entrepreneurship is a hot topic, the concept of using business to assist with society’s  needs is not a new concept. I know countless entrepreneurs who funded bloodline dreams and community campaigns with their entrepreneurial endeavors. Brilliance, did you know the class we represent in 2014 created $1.4 trillion in sales? Yes, ma’am, you read correctly TRILLION.

We know as women we are often given stories not befitting our true brilliance, nevertheless beautiful soul this is our time to create our stories and write checks funding the next dreams of women leaders.

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Our question to YOU is “Are you paying yourself?” Not in shoes, bags, makeup (yes we lovveeee those things as well). But are you investing in the future YOU?

 

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Couture Purpose decided to go with the theme of Minding Our Business: Focus on Business, Focus on Growth for July 2015 because more minority women need to get into the business arena. Yes, there is an increase in the number of women of color in business but we are just a small percentage of the overall business demographics. Think about it, it is over 7 billion people in the world. What idea, plan, dream, invention do you have that can serve the world and create a wealth legacy for you and your spheres?

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Brilliance if you are hesitant about starting and flourishing in business. Know we are not alone there many organizations who know how to assist us with our entrepreneurial goals. Remember, Couture Purpose is more than willing to assist you with making statements by manifesting your brilliance in the world.

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Response requires Actions:

 Write down one thing you like to buy.

  1. In ten words or less explain why you like to buy that item (i.e. this item makes me feel… I like the company; I am able to…with this item).
  2. Write down in one paragraph how you would improve the item (For example I would lower the price, have more vendors sell the item etc…).
  3. Guess what you just created a product…now go SELL IT!

 

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The Interview: His Side of Marriage

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It was beyond fun to talk about marriage and to witness your reactions to our various posts pertaining to marriage. For the last installment of our marriage series, we elected to interview a husband who values the institution of marriage. There’s no better way to hear about marriage than from a devoted husband!

Enjoy the interview…

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Do successful women intimidate men?

I believe that strong, aggressive, ambitious people intimidate weak, passive, lackadaisical people regardless of sex. Personally successful women do not intimidate me but many men feel their identities defined by what they do and how much they earn. In my mind it takes a strong women to walk with a strong man. There’s’ no room for intimidation in any loving relationship.

Do you think there’s a shortage of good men?

I don’t think there is a shortage of good men or women. I believe that we attract what we are. A woman only needs to find one man; I would rather see her focus on finding her man as opposed to dealing with all the bad men.

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Why are you married?

The short answer is I’m married because I believe in the power of love, commitment and companionship. The long answer is that I’m married because I love having someone to share my life with, someone to talk to about everything and someone to support and see grow and mature in their life and purpose. I love an accountability partner for all aspects of my life. As an athlete I love the concept of team, and having a lifelong teammate.

Best thing about being married?

The best thing about being married is having a front row seat for our personal growth as a couple. Walking with my wife brings me many laughs and enjoyable moments. Seeing our growth as individuals and as a couple is the best thing about being married.

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 Most challenging thing about being married?

As a husband I believe my job is to a lead my household, love my wife unconditionally, and serve my wife. While there is much depth to these three requirements of being a husband, there are many challenges where the rubber meets the road. Many men believe that being the head of their household means to rule over your wife. Head does not mean dominance and I believe that part of the reason we are so resistant to embracing our roles as husbands and wives is due to our lack of understanding of leadership. One of the most challenging things about being married tie into the role of leadership from a husband’s perspective.

As a new husband it was a challenge to know how to head my household. While I knew the role of a leader my main challenge was how I translated my leadership role to my wife. I had to check the way that I talked; I had to become aware of the words that I used and how I communicated to my wife across the board.

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When did you know your wife was your life-purpose partner?

I knew my wife was my life partner early in life. We met around 6-7 years old and I’ve had a crush on her ever since our initial meeting. There is a feeling that I got with her that I didn’t have before her.

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What advice do you have for men wanting to be married?

I could write a book on the advice for men desiring marriage, but the one key piece of advice that I would offer is to take the time to prepare yourself to enter the marriage space. That preparation involves learning the role of a husband. What your role is in a marriage, and learning what’s involved in being the head of a family. Any man looking to become a husband should have a spiritual foundation, and seek the counsel of G-d as to the husbands’ responsibility in the family unit.

What advice do you have for women wanting to be married?

My advice for women and men is essentially the same. I believe that women should go into marriage understanding the role of a wife and what that means in the framework of a family. I also suggest that a woman not settle for just any man but wait for the man who is for her.

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What are three of the biggest obstacles to a thriving marriage?

While there are many obstacles to a successful marriage I believe the biggest obstacle to a thriving marriage is a lack of communication and a space of total acceptance. In order for you to have a thriving marriage there must be a space of vulnerability in the marriage. Both parties must have a place to rest their heads that is not a space of judgment or shame. Through honest communication within that space you can see your marriage begin to thrive and grow in ways unimagined.

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How can men and women achieve more effective communication between one another?

To improve communication men and women have to create spaces of trust. We have to understand that we can trust each other in order for us to open ourselves for better communication. I also believe that we have to listen with an unaffected ear to hear what the other person is saying, and to place ourselves in the shoes of the other person so that we hear them and their position, and perspective.

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